Tag: intersectional identity

All the World is Waiting for You

Dyed my hair blueblack today. I may be a little excited about Wonder Woman.


Brian says:  Did you dye it with the tears of men?

Romie: Sort of? I made my husband apply it and he was very stressed out by the fear he might (1) fail to dye my hair (2) accidentally dye several other surfaces (3) or both.

Brian: I’m just referring to the guys who are getting very upset about the all-women screenings of Wonder Woman.

Romie: I have been following the strategy of screening messages from those guys. I throw up blocks like they’re missle-deflecting gold bracelets.


Nic says: I used to do blue-black – kind of miss it.

Romie: It is one of very few colors my hair hasn’t previously been! I’m liking it.


Carrie says: Hoo boy just found out BDS Lebanon is boycotting, so my outfit is changing (adding my purple kafia). I realize this is not enough but my ticket is bought already and I do want to go.

Romie: When you’re a member of (or ally of) mutiple sometimes-overlapping oppressed populations, I suspect it’s somewhat revolutionary to be joyful when there is an opportunity to feel delight—to find hope in the community of other imperfect strivers.

I like the kafia idea.


Acevedo: [tosses back long dark locks] you were saying….?


Angie says: GREAT excuse for a selfie, tbh!!

Romie: INSTEAD I CRASH A MAN’S SELFIE

wonderwoman hair

Angie: SO WOMAN, MUCH WONDER

Summer: Your clothes match. I’m agog.

Romie: Mine isn’t clothes; it’s a blanket. We match on many levels but “comfortable ambient temperature” is not one of them.


Angela says: My purple turned red; am considering spinning in place until am brunette and in satin tights myself.

Andrea: Totally thought about doing this, too!!! Solidarity cloaked in midnight blues!!!

United We Stand

Don’t be fooled by the narrative that tells you the women’s marches were whiny white rich bitches. The organizers were primarily women of color. Crowd shots of the rallies will show you a mix of men and women of all races. A look at the speaker lineup at the rally is chock full of names like Maxine Waters (congressional black caucus), Linda Sarsour (Arab-American Association of New York), Tamika Mallory (prominent civil rights activist) and Carmen Perez (Gathering for Justice Group).

I don’t know why the clips getting passed around are Ashley Judd and Madonna and Scarlett Johanson (I do know), and not, for instance, the (black, female) mayor of Washington, DC, whose outrage was more persuasive than any of theirs. It’s not an accurate representation of who was on stage, or in the crowds. The crowds were colorful. The crowds were gay. The crowds were differently abled. The crowds included people who hitchhiked in, and slept on floors.

United we stand. Divided we fall. Thieves want us fighting among ourselves and will lie about the alliances that exist, to try to make white women scared of black people and non-white people disbelieve that anyone can hear them. It’s a way to control us, and it’s false. We are in this together. We showed it. We’ll show it again.

Audience Participation

I’ve seen some criticisms of the women’s march as unfocused and lacking a clear, single, actionable demand. That’s not an inaccurate descripton, but it makes some assumptions about the priority audience. If the priority audience isn’t Trump, but the attendees, then throwing a lot of stuff out there makes good sense. It’s like a Mary Kay convention, where you say “here’s the product line; go home and sell the heck out of the parts you’re excited about.”